How to behave on a first date
There is a ton of advice on the web about the same super important theme: how to act on a first date. The great majority of these texts are written by men, and generally directed towards that special subset of the male population that doesn’t understand why they aren’t invited for dessert in the woman’s house the very first evening.
Obviously, advice like “Be yourself” “Don’t ask for her hand in marriage the first night” or “Don’t talk about your bosses gross habits”, are all good advice, not just common sense. That’s to say, it’s good advice for a 20 year old newbie, but let’s suppose that neither you nor I are so green, and we aren’t going to talk about the time our Aunt Silvia suffered a vomiting attack in the airport or arrive late reeking of alcohol and fried food. But can we go beyond common sense and find a perfect formula for the first date?
1. The place should be appropriate, not the kebab joint on the corner or a 5 star French restaurant. And not that cute place you always used to go with your ex. In fact, for first dates, we recommend going someplace where you don’t have too many social ties. If it isn’t an unforgettable experience, you don’t need to explain to the waitress why you’re seated at the same table every week with a different girl. Even better? Pick a place together, not only is it more likely that it is mutually agreeable, you’ll also get to see how you make compromises.
2. Don’t limit yourself choosing a place. You can get to know each other better going to concerts, museums, wine tasting, taking a long bike ride or going to a flea-market. The important thing is to talk, and pick a place that gives you a chance to get to know each other better- habits, taste, lifestyle, etc.
3. If you are currently involved in a relationship, don’t go on dates with other people. If you have to turn off your telephone during the date to avoid unwanted “interruptions” from another girl, don’t go either. We ask you to respect the common good.
4. Things we don’t talk about? Well there is the “talk about your interests and things you like” school and the “don’t talk about your exes, money, and politics or too much about work” school. Any way you hack it, the idea is to talk as naturally as possible without exposing all of your weaknesses at once (oh, there will be time for that!). You can talk about anything you like but be honest and try to listen.
5. The idea is to have a good time and meet someone new, not sleep with a stranger.
Ok, now that you have great advice from a certified older sister, veritable treasure trove of tried and true tips on romantic leisure, what should you do?
Well, it’s very easy: after treating your new queen with the respect she deserves (calling when you say you will, not freaking out when she calls, cooking relaxing and delicious dinners, listening to her, peeling her grapes on the beach and anything else she desires…) and everything is going well, it’s a great moment to see if things work in a more intimate situation. One romantic, economic and fun way to do so? Why not escape a few days to Budapest. You can be on a date all weekend long if you rent apartments in Budapest!
June 8th, 2010 at 8:36 am
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June 9th, 2010 at 4:15 pm
hi,am coming to hungary for the first time,i hope to meet someone nice,sweet,romatic,kind and loving.i wish i can find sure a person or you can hook me with someone of my taste.thks